A lot of people still misplace “dating” for “being in a relationship”. Although both terms are inter-related and include forms of human relations by means of communication or interaction and shared interests, however, they still don’t entirely mean the same thing. No, they don’t!
Here is the Sharp Difference.
Dating is a phase where two people who are attracted to each other (and want to get something meaningful out of it) try to get to know each other better. This is usually the point where people get butterfly feelings in their tummy as they gradually learn more about their new friend and partner. This stage is usually characterised by so much likeness, happiness, crush, fantasies and infatuation. The partners try to impress each other and not ruin moments spent too. They hang out, go on dates, spend time together and get to know each other’s character, likes, dislikes, hobbies, values, interests and a whole lot of things.
Compatibility is tested in this stage. With time, the infatuation will wear off as they get used to each other and start facing the real deal. If after all of this and they discover they’re still cool with each other and would want to deepen the bond between them, they can then decide to take things to the next level by getting into a relationship properly. In a very precise explanation, dating is a step to forming a romantic relationship.
Getting into a relationship comes up after two people who have genuine feelings for each other have decided to strengthen and deepen their bond. They both have passed the level of infatuation and have also started to better understand what they truly want and feel for each other. Love and intimacy tend to set in here properly.
The friendship which they had formed at the dating stage continues to grow as they delve deeper into each other’s life, exploring every nook and crany of each other’s life, spending more time together, doing things together, professing love to each other, trying their best to make each other happy, making life much better and pleasurable for each other and also doing all they can to maintain their new found love and happiness.
It’s no longer news that some of these relationships still end in breaks ups caused by various reasons. However, couples who are still crazily in love, have chosen to stick to each other through thick and thin and are willing and eager to do all it takes to maintain their loving relationship can also decide to take this relationship to the next (marriage) level. Marriage is a higher form of relationship entered into by two consenting adults who are ready and really know what it takes. Marriage isn’t a child’s play.
Nevertheless, Iove is never enough to maintain any form of relationship or marriage. Other crucial factors such as compatibility, respect, teamwork and willingness to compromise matter too. That’s why the two must be willing to put in joint efforts towards achieving it. Why? Because the two are now one!
Sweethearts and Darlings… Let me leave you with this line… Before you venture into any form of relationship, make sure it’s with your friend or someone you’ve dated. Don’t get yourself entangled in an unrequited love that will eventually bring the relationship to an end. Honey, it’s true that not all relationships will end in marriage, but never let yours be one of those with a sad ending. There’s so much love to give and take. But make sure it’s with the right person. Shalom!