What exactly do men really want, need and desire in a relationship?
Women have asked this question severally in the past, are currently asking and will still ask in the future. Everything appears so complicated that women are not even sure what their men actually want. It appears they want a pretty lady with big front and behind today but then tomorrow, everything changes. It becomes a quest for a smart lady they can engage in intellectual conversations with. But what about the following week? The story changes all over again. Suddenly it’s all about finding peace and harmony in life.
Which ever way it appears, Men do have secr3t desires. Only that what they want in a casual or s3xual relationship is not exactly what they want in a serious relationship. What they want in a fl1ng can never be the same thing they want in marriage. They simply want more. The earlier you figure this out, the better you know and understand what a man really wants from his woman.
So here are ten things men secr3tly desire in a serious relationship… and of course… in marriage too.
Men love int1macy. It’s no doubt that they’re obs3ssed with this. It’s just their biol0gical make up and you wouldn’t blame them for it. If as a lady you tell them you don’t want such, they may pretend to be totally cool with the idea but deep down in them, they crav3 int1macy and surely won’t hesitate to go with a lady with similar desire. They want their women to be willing to get involved in the act of lov3making with them. Int1macy goes beyond just s3x. Int1macy is closeness, friendship, emotions, bonding and understanding. Int1macy includes genuine feelings of affection.
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Companionship is another thing men crav3 in relationships. They could show you they’re okay living alone but if they really like and love you, they would be nurturing the idea of you moving in with them. Although some may not say this for f3ar of loosing their friendship with you. They want their women to be around them almost all the time, engaging in meaningful conversation and spending time together.
3. Stability and Reliability:
Stability and reliability are also crucial desires of men. Any man who wants a serious commitment looks out for a woman he knows can stick with him through thick and thin. One who has got his back just as much as he’s got hers. They avoid ladies who can easily run off to another man when the going gets t0ugh. They want a partner they can always trust and rely on, definitely not a fair weather friend.
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4. Emotional Support:
Many men would try to deny this fact for f3ar of being labelled w3ak and frag1le. But come on, these men are still humans with emotions and bl00d running through their ve1ns. They may keep this s3nsitive secr3t desire away from you, but as a lady, it’s important you become s3nsitive to your man’s needs. Study him properly and know when he is in his w3ak and low moments. Be his shoulder to lean and cry on. Baby girl, Be His Peace and Harmony! They want to know it’s okay to open up to you, tell you their faith, f3ars, likes, dislikes, strengths and w3aknesses without being judg3d but understood. Men need their women to be able to lift them up and hold them close when things are r0ugh and when things are smooth. They want to know you will always be there for them no matter what happens.
5. Good Looks:
It’s no news that men are driven by what they see. Men love women with good looks. You musn’t have the best of shapes or be the most beautiful or become the s3xiest woman on earth before you become appealing or attractive. Bath and brush properly, take care of your skin, hair, clothes, accessories, walk majestically, be elegant. But in all your gettings, please have some manners too. Speak politely and act courteously. Take care of yourself and you become attractive. Some men may have cleanliness issu3s but it doesn’t change the fact that they desire clean and neat women. But oh! Don’t become neat just for the sake of some man out there, learn to be clean and neat for your own sake too.
6. Pr1vate Space.
In as much as men love to be kept company, they also love it when you give them some space. Giving a man his pr1vate space and some alone time helps him unwind and meditate. He also relaxes and calms his n3rves down while trying to think ahead, figure out certain things, make objective plans, think about the future and reason properly. Giving a man the space he needs also allows him do the things he loves. Dear women, know when your man needs some pr1vate space and be willing to give him that. He will love you more for it.
7. Love and Pamper:
Men need to be loved just like every other human. Men like appearing strong always. But beneath that masculine exterior lies a delicate crav3 for true love, genuine feelings, sincere affection and the desire to be pampered. If you doubt this, try p3tting and pampering your man, then study his facial expression. You would be surprised to see excitement showing all over his face and also the baby1sh attitude that may even come up at the moment.
As humans, we love it when we get appreciated for the things we do. Men aren’t any different. Appreciation goes a long way in making the heart of men merry. They want you to notice the things they do for you and be shown appreciation in return. They want to know that their genuine care and efforts towards their loved ones and their relationships are very much appreciated by their women. When your man goes out of his way in order to put a smile on your face, he s3cretly y3arns to be praised, thanked, valued, adored and sincerely appreciated in all of his doings. Don’t hesitate to shower him with these s3cret desires of his. He’s surely worth it!
9. Taking Initiative:
Men are like the head. They love to be in charge. In as much as they love to lead, they still like it when their women initiate things. They want to feel wanted, desired and needed too. Babe, bring in new ideas to the table. They may not voice this out, but they don’t always want to be the one initiating s3x. As the lady, once in a while, surprise your man. You musn’t wait to be asked before you do certain things. You musn’t always sit and wait for him to start something before you follow suit. It’s always s3xy, alluring and romantic when the woman initiates lov3making. Take the initiative in bed and show him how much you crav3 to have him. Take the initiative in your home and show him how much you want him, need him, desire him and value his efforts.
10. Mutual Respect:
Men love to be respected. They place it in a very high regard. Men crav3 respect more than they crav3 love. They need their women to respect, cherish and hold them in a very high esteem. Ladies, be very mindful of the way you address your men especially in the public. Respect his body, decision, belief, ideas, values and morals just as much as you respect his person. Give him peace of mind. Men d3test it when their ego gets bruised or when they’re being chall3nged, at home or in the public, most especially when it’s coming from their partner. They feel highly insu*ted in such cases. Respect is like food to them just like s3x is. None is even negotiable. Gorgeous Babes in the house, learn to respect your men to the core and have them cherish and respect you as well. Besides, when we love, adore and value someone, we should respect them right? Of course we should. Great! So it is then.
So now, we know the core things our dear men secr3tly desire in every relationship. So we the ladies should be very sensitiv3 to these needs and give our darlings what they crav3. There is no true love without giving remember. We bet they would equally give us what we s3cretly want and desire in return. That’s Love In Action!